Every Woman Deserves Good Love.. Nothing Less

Welcome to the Eternal Search for Good Love...

As much as I am so excited to start blogging about "good love", I feel I need to explain what I mean by "good love" and how this concept came to evolve.

Many years ago, when I was new in the game of love, I went out with a loser with a capital L. Ok, make that a few losers.

One was a totally clueless insensitive guy who methodically forgets birthdays and anniversaries.

One was obsessively jealous; always checking up on me, always suspicious. On the verge of being violent.

One was severely lacking in ambition and direction in life.

One had a lot of hang-ups, always talking about how great his life was. And worse, he was always talking about an ex-girlfriend who had dumped him for, no surprises, for a much better man.

In other words, I had an almost endless parade of losers who just made me feel unhappy most of the time. I was always wanting and searching for the Next One.

Faced with this situation, I did what most sensible woman would do: talk it to death. My talk partner during this period was a very sweet, sensitive guy who's almost like a woman. I mean, we will dissect every single thing that bothers us about our respective relationships and formulate our own love "theories" that will put even Dr. Gray to shame. In one of these endless discussions, we decided that I was in a "bad loving" relationship: I was in love but I was unhappy: sometimes with myself, sometimes with my man, most of the time with the relationship. It made so much sense to me, that I never forgot it.

From then on, I resolved never to be trapped into another "bad loving" relationship. I made a conscious effort to pursue only "good loving" that after some time, I was almost automatically attuned to it.

Fast forward to Year 2000. I was so enamored with the "Good Love" idea that I decided to pen my thoughts and my experiences, int he hope that, well, I'll make a few bucks out of it. LOL. No, seriously, I thought it was something that I needed to share because I personally know of a lot of women who are going through hell in their relationships.

The result was a book titled "Hello, Good Love: The Art of Finding, Attracting, and Keeping the Love you Want Without Losing Yourself". I had very good reviews from women who have read it. Some say it changed the way they viewed love and life. Some said that they managed to find "good love' because of the book.

To be honest, (at the risk of losing your precious readership) I am no Dr. Grey. I am not a therapist. I am not a shrink.

So, what business do you have writing a book about love and dishing advice??? Who is going to buy your stuff? Who is going to publish it?(Me berating myself, when I decided to write a book)

Guess, what! I did find a publisher and the books sold. It was a minor bestseller, in fact. It is also often out of circulation in the libraries even though it wasn't promoted at all. Just word of mouth. (Me bragging now:)

Going back to who gave me the guts to write a book and approach a publisher?

Well, as I have said earlier, I am no Dr. Gray. My training is in business. I have an MBA and my work experiences had always been in the field of business and some commercial publishing.

BUT... I think my real passion is in understanding man amd woman relationships. Finding out what makes it tick. What irks men. What irks women. How to stay in love....blah blah blah.


Event though I am no shrink, I find that I could have excelled as one had I decided to pursue this career. My husband is always amazed at how I manage to get people to tell me their innermost secrets, desires, longings, frustrations, ..... without my prodding. One time, a client whom I have just made a presentation to told me that he was divorced and that his ex-wife had affairs, prompting him to call his divorce laywer. A fellow dinner guest, after having chatted with me for a good three minutes proceeded to tell me that his wife suffers from cystic fibrosis and that this is affecting their relationship. One time, I was in a dinner when the elegant lady seated next to me, started telling me that her biggest mistake in life was marrying her husband. Dud!!

Now, don't get me wrong. My book isn't a product of all these dinner tales. I have also spent a great deal doing honest-to-goodness research. I think I must have spent my handbags and shoes allowance buying all the relationship guru books and learning from them. Some I found too idealistic and difficult to implement as they require a saint-like attitude. Others are written in heavy prose that only an english major could appreciate.

So, I decided to write my own. I hope you will find time to take a look at th ebook I have painstakingly put together. BUT, a big, big BUT. I don't claim to be an authority. My goal is to simply share what worked for me and for other women, strangers mostly, who told me it changed their lives. When in doubt, just take it with a grain of salt. Or consult a real guru.

Ok. Keep that credit card now. I am not trying to sell the book to you. You can read it for free, online. Here's the link: www.hellogoodlove.com. Of course, if you would like to get the paperback version, you are most welcome:)

Just to give you an idea of what this life-changing:) book is all about, I will run a few excerpts in my next post.